Being a stay-at-home-mother is probably one of the hardest jobs ever! It’s truly like 3 full-time jobs rolled into one and it’s probably the most under-appreciated job in the world, too. It’s not for every mother and that’s okay! Not all moms are able to stay home with their children and some chose not to and return back to work whenever it is time.
After interviewing several SAHMs, we found Jodi Devore.
Tell us a little about yourself and family.
Justin and I have been married for 4 years; we have 3 AMAZING babies. We knew we wanted at least 3 babies, but were surprised with each pregnancy. Jase is 3 - he's our go-with-the-flow kid, energetic, and autistic. Tucker is 2 - stubborn, silly, and super busy. Adelyn is 1 - she runs the show, sweet and sassy! We just added a puppy to the mix - a mini Goldendoodle names T-Rex.
We live in St. Amant, LA. Justin is a biologist and works in costal restoration. I have been a stay-at-home mom since Tucker was born.
What's the biggest challenge about being a stay -at -home -mother?
OK - so every day presents it's own challenge.
I think the biggest challenge is the juggle. Keeping all your balls from falling. You've got to set up your routine that incorporates everything in this small amount of time - cooking, cleaning, activities with the kids that promote every kind of learning under the sun, outside play, potty training, etc etc. Learning to make priorities and letting go to the not so important things. Laundry - let that go! The kids won’t remember having to dig out the clean clothes basket to get dressed - they'll remember the time spent with them... playing outside with mom & mom coloring with them.
Some days the struggle is knowing that you are doing enough, and that what you are doing is important.
Other days, the struggle is being a "person" that's separate from being a mom. OK - this I understand and I don't understand. So, we went to one of those indoor play places not too long ago. All I could hear were moms talking about the same topic... like 5 different sets of moms talking about the SAME THING! It completely threw me off. One mom was talking about how she didn't know who should would be without her career, I'm thinking "a mom, DUH". Don't get me wrong, I completely understand having an identify and a sense of self- but MOM is #1. I take most pride in the person as I am in being a mom. You know, I see it like this. This is my season to be a mom and to put all my blood sweat and tears to raise good people - I'm going to make it my B!
What is the biggest reward for being a stay -at-home-mother?
Experiencing all of their firsts; teaching them new things and them mastering it. Being able to comfort and take care of them when they are sick.
Being home with your children can have its challenges, do you have a "system" in place that makes life easier at home?
Heck yeah. So we do not run on a strict schedule - but we do the same things daily.
I make a meal plan for the month (ideally) - best thing ever. There's no thinking involved in what we will eat on any given day, it's more cost effective making one big grocery trip, I know what meat to take out in the morning to thaw for dinner lol. So much less stress!!!
The dishwasher is ran every day during nap time.
Laundry is washed and dried - I fold it when I can. This is the most time consuming task that just isn't worth it to me.
What advice do you have for other stay-at-home-moms?
Don't be so hard on yourself.
Let it go - the housework, the laundry - let that go. It'll be there tomorrow.
Please share with us anything else you would like the community to know about SAHMs!
It's hard. It's exhausting - you don't have sick days, vacation days, or even a weekend. It doesn't stop. It's the most rewarding, special job in the world. And if there is a possibility that you can stay home with your kids - TAKE IT!
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