Written By: Ashley Holden, owner of N-Joy! Weddings & Events | Photo Credit: Carolynn Siebert Photograpy
Monograms are as essential as air to girls in the South. It is very likely that as soon as your mother got the news that her bundle of joy was going to be a girl, the very first thing ever bought for you was something pink…and monogrammed. And so begins a lifetime of having your initials on everything imaginable. It is not only a rite of passage in the South; it is one of our most sacred traditions. It only makes sense to carry this tradition on to a particular point in your life where tradition reigns supreme- a southern girl’s wedding day. I have to say, I was no exception. In fact, one of the first gifts I received (literally within a few hours of being proposed to) was a bracelet with a heart charm between two initials, an ‘A’ and a ‘J’ for Ashley and Jeremiah. It was given to me by two of my girls who happened to be one of my Bridesmaids and my Maid of Honor. I’m almost certain I’ve worn it every day since. Oh and let’s not forget the white clutch with what would become my NEW monogram with my married last initial. That was one of my favorite gifts my whole engagement!
Southern brides don’t stop at bridesmaid’s gifts. Oh no, they stay committed the whole way through and this includes the wedding day. It starts with invitations and the theme is carried on through things like personalized signs, cocktail napkins, wedding cake toppers, GOBOS , favors and the list goes on. Once again, I was no exception. I used a monogram on our invitations and then used the same one on signage throughout the festivities starting with the rehearsal dinner and ending with the champagne brunch the morning after. One thing I do suggest with this is that you don’t use your married initial until after the actual ceremony. For example, I used our first initials on our pre-wedding items instead of my married last initial of ‘R’. Then on the cake, which wasn’t seen until after we said “I Do”, I let the new initial come out! I feel like it’s a little ceremonial and makes it extra special.
The really fun part comes after the wedding - using your new initials on EVERYTHING! A Southern girl’s dream; getting to start all over with the monogramming! Towels, table runners, garden flags, door mats, serving platters, new address stamps, stationery, barware and the like. For a while after the wedding, anything monogrammed becomes a go-to gift option from family and friends. The desire to have your new monogram on everything will die down eventually. That is, until the cycle starts again with a baby in the carriage!