Let's be honest for a minute. Most people will confuse Veterans Day and Memorial Day. It's not their fault, especially when the media and Big Box stores announce blow out sales for both days.
So we'll inform you.
Veterans Day honors everyone that has served in the military.
Memorial Day is designated as a day to pay tribute to those who lost their lives serving in the military. It's a day to pay tribute to the Soldier who won't be able to attend their little boys soccer games. A day to honor the Husband who won't be able to see his first child being born. The Daddy who won't be able to walk his daughter down the aisle on her wedding day. It's about the spouse, who on their anniversary sits by themselves remembering the good times they shared. It's about supporting the family of a Fallen Soldier because it's day like Memorial Day that makes it extra difficult to be without them.
It's about remembering that we do still have soldiers on the front lines fighting for our freedoms that soo many of us take for granted and are ungrateful of. It's about remembering that EVERY SINGLE MOMENT could be their last. It is about the men and women that did come home, but the thought of "celebrating" Memorial Day causes them to lock themselves in their homes this weekend because the guilt they feel for coming home safe while their fellow soldier did not. The guilt eats them up.
It is NOT about blow out sales, BBQs, or the biggest parties. So please let's all remember why Memorial Day is special to so many people in our country.
May you all have a safe and special Memorial Day.
Chances are if you're attending a wedding as a male bridal party member, you'll be wearing a boutonniere.
They have an interesting history. We've searched the internet to brief you on the history of the boutonniere, as well as some etiquette tips to help you out on the big day!
The word boutonniere comes to us from the French. The British simply called them button hole flowers. Traditionally, the flower was placed in the button hole of the man’s suit or tuxedo.
Some sources believe that the tradition of wearing flowers goes back as far as ancient civilizations like the Egyptians or the Aztecs, who were believed to wear certain colored blossoms to show their support for players who participated in sporting events.
Other scholars believe that the boutonniere tradition came about on the battlefields of civil wars in England, where each side wore a particular color or type of flower to distinguish friends and enemies from each other.
According to GentlemansGazette.com, boutonnieres became popular as lapel adornments in the early 19th century. The fashions of this time period started to include coats that folded over at the top, revealing the inside of the buttonhole.
So why did this tradition start?
Oddly, the boutonniere and the bridal bouquet were created for similar reasons: to ward off bad smells, disease, and evil spirits.
Today's weddings are full of traditions and Southern brides and grooms, for the most part, like to stay true to many of these traditions. One of these traditions is for the groom, groomsmen, fathers, grandfathers, ushers, and maybe even the officiant to wear a boutonniere on the left lapel of his suit or tuxedo jacket.
Most of the time a boutonniere is simply a few small blooms bundled together. Sometimes, however, something more unique is in order.
At weddings, there are certain guidelines to follow when it comes to boutonnieres. The groom should have always have a different boutonniere than his groomsmen and the other men at the event who might wear one, like the fathers of the groom and bride. While it’s not required, it’s a good idea to match the boutonniere to the bride’s bouquet.
The boutonniere should also always be worn on the left lapel of a man’s suit jacket. Make sure your florist includes the stems of the flowers used, so that the boutonniere can be easily pinned to the jacket. Also make sure to ask your florist to include pins to use, otherwise any floral or hobby shop like Hobby Lobby will carry floral pins.
Our best advice is to keep it simple and tasteful, but don't be afraid to get creative with them either!
Don’t use anything much larger than the size of a golf ball, leave the full, lush blooms to the mothers to wear as corsages.
Congratulations! You're getting married! There are SO many things to do before your big day and of course, you'll want your best girls (or guys) right by your side the entire time!
Let's face it, you live in the South, where most of your bridal party will be made up of at least one of the following:
- a relative
- a best friend
- a childhood friend
- a sorority sister
If you let it, your choices can quickly grow to a rather large list of bridesmaids if you're not careful in your selections. And because a true Southern woman is always courteous and kind, you may have a hard time choosing your bridesmaids!
Remember, it is your wedding! It is okay to have an odd number. It is okay to have only a maid of honor. But keep in mind the type of wedding you will be having: if your're having a smaller more intimate wedding, it's probably best to forego having 8 bridesmaids!
Choosing How Many
It is definitely a personal preference on how large or small of a bridal party you want, but there are some things to take into consideration:
- is there enough room at your ceremony location for your bridesmaids to stand next to you? (this won't be an issue if your ceremony is formal and long in time, as they will most likely be sitting in the first row near the altar)
- if your bridal party will be joining you around your wedding cake for toastings, is there enough room for everyone around the table?
- if you're buying your bridal party a gift, do you want to be buying for 4 or 10?
- where are they located? Are they near or far?
The More The Merrier, Right?
Not necessarily! Sometimes the more people you have involved, the more complications that can arise! That's more opinions on dresses, more bouquets to provide for.....however....the upside is there are more hands on deck if you're a DIY kind of bride!!
To Choose Relatives (Or Future Ones) Or Not
This can be tricky! When you got engaged the first person you probably thought about asking was your sister or future sister-in-law (if this applies to you). But how close are you? Take a step back and think about this for a moment before asking! It could be a great decision or a disastrous one. Remember, just because you are related, it doesn't mean that they HAVE to be in your wedding.
Don't Judge A Book By Its Cover
Meaning don't jump to conclusions when narrowing down your list of bridesmaids on whether or not she can afford the bridesmaid dress or not. You never know if she can or not unless you ask, but don't assume.
Your Wedding Is NOT A Game And You Don't Have To Play Tit For Tat!
We said it! Just because such and such from college asked you to be her bridesmaid in her wedding, it doesn't mean you have to ask her back! It's your wedding, not hers!
You Have More Guy Friends Than Girls
No problem! We throw out etiquette books when it comes to weddings! It's 2016, not 1984! It is perfectly okay to have your best guy friend stand next to you at your wedding.
Some Things To Remember:
- It is okay if they turn you down! It's better they do it now, instead of waiting 2 months before your wedding and then trying to find someone to replace them and be able to get a dress in on time! Say Thank You and move on!
- Set expectations to your bridal party. If you expect them to be hands on and involved throughout the planning process, tell them in the beginning!
- Choose a Maid/Matron of Honor who will support you from the moment you ask them until your send-off at the end of your wedding! It's an important role. You'll want someone responsible.
And ALWAYS remember that it is YOUR wedding! Don't let anyone force you into choosing your bridesmaids and don't ever feel obligated or guilty for choosing or not choosing someone!
You're engaged! Congratulations!
You probably have a million and one things to do and choosing your outfit for your engagement photos most likely isn't on top of that list!
We've seen the beautiful, the amazing, and the not your best moment when it comes to engagement shoots. In today's society there is soo much riding on having the perfect engagement photos because it sets the tone for the rest of your wedding festivities. Yes, we said it......your engagement photos will tell your future guests what they can expect without you actually muttering a word! Talk about putting on a little pressure!
You would think that the most important part of your engagement session is choosing the right photographer (which that's actually really important, but for fashion purposes, not right now!) or great lighting, a lot of it is what you are wearing and your partner too, but they can choose their outfit to coordinate with yours after you've decided on yours! . That's because what you wear is likely going to dictate how comfortable you are moving around, or how you and your fiancé look together.
There's a lot and we mean a lot riding on these photos, again no pressure though, but you'll have these pictures for a very long time and you'll probably even use them for future save-the-date cards, announcements, and of course on display in your home.
Choose Something Comfortable
If you're typically a jeans and t-shirt type of woman, you can still rock your favorite pair of jeans, but with a cute top and shoes! I wouldn't be pulling out the tulle skirts (which we love) if that's not what you're comfortable wearing. You want to look yourself, not someone else. Remember, if you're not comfortable, it'll show in your pictures and that's not pretty!
Don't Play The Matching Game
Coordinating your look with your partner is perfectly acceptable, wearing matching colors and patterns is not. Your engagement session shouldn't feel like you're going to your high school's Sadie Hawkins Dance!
TRY To Limit The Number Of Outfits
The key word here is try. Really do try to limit the number of outfits you change into for you engagement session. We recommend at least two to three outfit changes, you don't want your engagement session to turn into a fashion shoot, unless fashion is your thing! Then by all means go for it, just know that changing outfits will become exhausting and exhaustion shows in photos and you want to look your best, right?
Minimize Your Accessories
Do your best to have one WOW factor accessory, you can still have smaller accessories as well. Adding at least one will add visual interest to your photos. For guys, simply adding a layer of clothing can add visual interest.
Consider Your Location(s)
Think about where your session will be. Are you going for a soft earthy feel? Sticking to soft neutral colors may be a great option. Will you be in a city? Brighter colors or a more polished approach may work with the setting better.
Dress On The Same Scale
On the day of your photo shoot, you should both look like you’re headed to the same place. Plan on dressing to the nines? Make sure your fiance isn’t wearing his favorite t-shirt with shorts and white sneakers. Wear clothes that are on the same level of dressiness or casualness.
Things Not To Wear
– Bright white shirts and Khakis
– Tops with big logos or a lot of writing on them – Let's keep it classy.